Tuesday, December 31, 2013

2013 Goals in Review

Last year about this time, I posted my 2013 goals here.

This week, I went back to review those goals, and I didn't do so hot.  Turns out, you should review your goals periodically to make sure you are on track.  Just checking in on them after 51.5 weeks and expecting them to be magically completed is not an efficient way to make sure they are achieved. Good to know.
Let's review.

  • Read the Bible all the way through. Nope.
  • Write in a personal journal twice a week. Nada.
  • Write a snail mail letter once a month.  Actually, I semi-completed this one. I wrote a letter nine out out of 12 months.  Compared to my progress in other areas, I'll accept it. Plus, as a bonus, I received a few snail mail letters this year.  I will aim to continue this tradition in the new year.
  • Read 5 biographies. Nothing.
  • Comment consistently on my friend's blogs. I feel like I did pretty good at this and now it's kind of a habit.  Sure, the majority of my friends blog less often now than they did at the beginning of the year, but I'm not going to take that as a personal reflection on my comments.  If you'd like to read my remaining consistent blogging friend's blog, check out The Striped Flamingo.
  • Burn a candle more often. Check mark! I got a large candle for Christmas last year, and burned it all the way through by November. It feels good to accomplish something. Even if that something is burning a candle all the way through.
  • Visit the Wizarding World of Harry Potter. Checkity-Check-Check.  Butterbeer is delicious.

How'd you do on your 2013 goals?

Books of 2013

I didn't have any particular reading goals* in mind when I started 2013, but I'm pleased with where I ended up.  95 books!  I think I read so much because I am so overwhelmed by the number of books that exist in this world.  It's really very astounding. And then of course, there are all the books that I've read over the years and loved and therefore feel the need to re-read periodically. Those are denoted below with the asterisks. Read all the way to the end for reccomendations!
  1. The Book Thief by Markus Zusak*, fiction
  2. A Solitary Blue by Cynthia Voight*, young adult
  3. The Runner by Cynthia Voight*, young adult
  4. Death Comes to Pemberly by P.D. James, fiction
  5. Looking for Alaska by John Green, young adult
  6. Mudbound by Hillary Jordan, fiction
  7. Will Grayson, Will Grayson by John Green, young adult
  8. Seriously…I’m Kidding by Ellen DeGeneres, non fiction
  9. Paper Towns by John Green, young adult
  10. The Wishing Spell by Chris Golfer, children
  11. Anne of Green Gables by L.M. Montgomery, children
  12. The Leftovers by Tom Perrotta, fiction
  13. Between Shades of Gray by Ruta Sepetys, fiction
  14. An Abundance of Katherines by John Green, young adult
  15. Anne of Avonlea by L.M. Montgomery, children
  16. Anne of the Island by L.M. Montgomery, young adult
  17. Anne of Windy Poplars by L.M. Montgomery, young adult
  18. The Light Between Oceans by M.L. Stedman, fiction
  19. Number the Stars by Lois Lowry, children
  20. Anne’s House of Dreams by L.M. Montgomery, young adult
  21. Behind the Beautiful Forevers: Life, Death and Hope in a Mumbai Undercity, non fiction
  22. Caught by Margaret Peterson Haddix, children
  23. Torn by Margaret Peterson Haddix, children
  24. The Cavendish Home for Boys and Girls by Claire Legrand, young adult
  25. Time and Again by Jack Finney, fiction
  26. The False Prince by Jennifer Nielsen, young adult
  27. Bond Girl by Erin Duffy, fiction
  28. The Shadow of the Wind by Carlos Zafon, fiction
  29. Tiger Lily by Jodi Lynn Anderson, young adult
  30. In the Shadow of Blackbirds by Cat Winters, young adult
  31. The Runaway King by Jennifer Neilsen, young adult
  32. The Magicians by Lev Grossman, fiction
  33. The Magician King by Lev Grossman, fiction
  34. The Bean Trees by Barbara Kingsolver, fiction
  35. Hyperion by Dan Simmons, fiction
  36. Matilda by Roald Dahl, children
  37. Prep by Curits Sittenfeld, young adult
  38. Where’d You Go, Bernadette by Maria Semple, fiction
  39. Under the Dome by Stephen King, fiction
  40. Struck by Lightning: The Carson Phillips Journal by Chris Colfer, young adult
  41. The Interestings by Meg Wolitzer, fiction
  42. A Million Miles in a Thousand Years: What I Learned While Editing My Life by Donald Miller
  43. Church Unique: How Missional Leaders Cast Vision, Capture Culture and Create Movement by Will Mancini, non-fiction
  44. The Hitman’s Guide to Housecleaning by Hallgrimur Helgason, fiction
  45. The Primal Blueprint: Reprogram your Genes for Effortless Weight Loss, Vibrant Health and Boundless Energy by Mark Sisson, non-fiction
  46. Joyland by Stephen King, fiction
  47. The Ocean at the End of the Lane by Neil Gaiman, fiction
  48. American Wife by Curtis Sittenfeld, fiction
  49. The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams, fiction
  50. Life after Life by Kate Atkinson, fiction
  51. Seige and Storm by Leigh Bardugo, young adult
  52. In a Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day: How to Survive and Thrive when Opportunity Roars by Mark Batterson, non-fiction
  53. Discover Your Optimal Health: The Guide to Taking Control of Your Weight, Your Vitality, Your Life by Wayne Scott Andersen, non-fiction
  54. Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? By Mindy Kaling*, non-fiction
  55. The Boo by Pat Conroy, fiction
  56. The Mark of Athena by Rick Riordan, young adult
  57. Penelope by Rebecca Harrington, young adult
  58. The Cuckoo’s Calling By Robert Galbraith, fiction
  59. Amelia Anne is Dead and Gone by Kat Rosenfeld, young adult
  60. Blue Boy by Rakesh Satyal, fiction
  61. A Summer to Die by Lois Lowry, young adult
  62. The Last Time They Met by Anita Shreve, fiction
  63. Wedding Night by Sophie Kinsella, fiction
  64. The Boy Who Couldn’t Sleep and Never Had to by D.C. Pierson, young adult
  65. Come a Stranger by Cynthia Voight*, young adult
  66. Honest Doubt by Amanda Cross, fiction
  67. The Tea Rose by Jennifer Donnelly, fiction
  68. Seventeen Against the Dealer by Cynthia Voight*, young adult
  69. The Winter Rose by Jennifer Donnelly, fiction
  70. Frankenstein by Mary Shelley, fiction
  71. Reconstructing Amelia by Kimberly McCreight, young adult
  72. Forgive Me, Leonard Peacock by Matthew Quick, young adult
  73. Mad About the Boy by Helen Fielding, fiction
  74. The Bride Wore Size 12 by Meg Cabot, fiction
  75. The Wild Rose by Jennifer Donnelly, fiction
  76. Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone by J.K. Rowling*, children
  77. The Emerald Atlas by John Stephens, children
  78. Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets by J.K. Rowling*, children 
  79. Allegiant by Veronica Roth, young adult
  80. Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban by J.K. Rowling*, children
  81. Persuasion by Jane Austen*, fiction
  82. Midnight in Austenland by Shannon Hale, fiction
  83. Strengths Based Leadership: Great Leaders, Teams and Why People Follow, non-fiction
  84. The Fire Chronicle by John Stephens, children 
  85. The End of the Alphabet by C.S. Richardson, fiction
  86. The Willoughbys by Lois Lowry, children
  87. Gossamer by Lois Lowry, children
  88. House of Hades by Rick Riordan, young adult
  89. True Grit by Charles Portis, fiction
  90. Let's Explore Diabetes with Owls by David Sedaris, non-fiction
  91. The Golem and the Jinni by Helene Wecker, fiction
  92. Eleanor and Park by Rainbow Rowell, young adult
  93. Mary Poppins by P.L. Travers, children
  94. Me Talk Pretty One Day by David Sedaris, non-fiction
  95. Mary Poppins Comes Back by P.L. Travers, children

Here are my favorites for the year:
Non-fiction: A Million Miles in a Thousand Years by Donald Miller. 

Adult fiction: Under the Dome and Life after Life

Children's/YA book: Anything by Lois Lowry, on this list or otherwise; seriously read them all

Historical fiction: The Tea Rose and its sequels, the Winter Rose and the Wild Rose

Fantasy book: The Magicians and its sequel, The Magician King

Children's/YA fantasy books: The Emerald Atlas and even more so, it's sequel The Fire Chronicle; also enjoyed the False Prince and its sequel the Runaway King

Classic: Persuasion, Anne of Green Gables

Time travel: Time and Again

*This is a lie. My only reading goal was to read five biographies. And unless the books of David Sedaris and Ellen DeGengeres count (which they don't in my mind), I didn't read any. I did attempt a few, but they were not my cuppa tea.

Thursday, October 24, 2013

Thankful Thursdays...say what?

I wish I posted more often, I really do.

Today I came home determined to blog about a particular topic I've been mulling over for a few weeks, but then I went searching through my archives for a bit looking for something and realized, "IT'S THURSDAY! I SHOULD DO A THANKFUL THURSDAY POST!"

So here goes!

Today I'm thankful:

That my Halloween costume is coming together.
Man, I mean, I know I make more of a deal out of Halloween than most, but this year has been a doozy.  I started working on it in September and thought I had it finished up this weekend, that is until I did a test run on my hair do last night and went into full blow panic mode after.  Thankfully my FB friends talked me out of spray painting my hair gold with spray paint from the hardware store.  The answers were a resounding NO, so I stepped back, thought it through and came up with a safer solution.  I'll post pictures of the complete costume next week.


For co-workers who become friends.
My co-worker (and friend) Matt left us yesterday for a new job.  We've had a lot of laughs over the years, plus discussions about television shows and advice shared (from him to me) on tech purchases. Plus, of course, numerous collaborative projects and pieces.  It was hard for me to say goodbye to him, but at least the feeling was mutual.  This is what he told me yesterday morning, "Leaving after six years is really hard. This is my third longest relationship, after Shannon (his wife) and LOST."

That I got to take care of my two nieces and nephew over the weekend.
As a 40th birthday present for the best older sister a girl could have, I took Zach, Julia and Natalie to my house for the weekend.  I'm not gonna lie, I was a little nervous beforehand, mainly because I'm not one of Natalie's favorite people and at 2 years old she's a little hard to reason with.  However, the whole weekend went beautifully, the kids were great, and we had a great time.




If you've been a reader for
a long time, you might remember
my 2 1/2 year old niece, Natalie!



Tomorrow is the Potato Drop at work.
The potato drop is when 40,000 pounds of unwanted potatoes get delivered to campus.  Students bag them up into family sized serving bags, which are then distributed to local agencies to hand out to those in need.  It's a fun event, and it helps those in need. Mostly, the reason I'm excited is because at the last Potato Drop event several years ago, I took an amazing (I'm not exaggerating) photo.  I'm not normally much of a photographer, but magic was in the air that day and the photo gods smiled on me.  The photo, lovingly referred to as "Potato Boy" by those in my office, has been used many, many times in publications since then and all other photos of community service are compared to it (and usually found wanting).  I hope I get a chance to "drop" by tomorrow to try again.

That on this new program, Take Shape for Life, I'm losing weight quickly and never hungry.
Hallelujah!

For vacations
My sister Mandy and I just got back from 4 days in NYC.  We saw just about all the sights you could possibly see and laughed a lot. Plus, I navigated the heck out of that city and its subways. (I really love navigating and Mandy really hates it, so it was kind of the best for both of us.)



GUYS, I SAW STARRY NIGHT IN PERSON AND IT WAS
EVERYTHING I HOPED IT COULD BE!



On that note, what are you thankful for?! Share in the comments below!


Friday, October 4, 2013

Hark! Is that a Lost and Not Found blog post, mine eyes see?

Despite the lack of posts in the last, oh, six odd weeks, I have not given up blogging!*  Let's celebrate this return from an oh-so-long blogging absence with an announcement!

I've lost 30 pounds in six weeks!

There is not a typo in that extra-large sentence up there, I really have lost 30 pounds in six weeks** through a program called Take Shape for Life. Take Shape for Life has three main components and some other smaller ones.  Let's break it down, shall we?

1) I have a health coach.
My health coach, Alison, is so great for me.  The first week on program was a little tough, adjusting to the lower calorie, low carb meal plan (more on that below).  She called me every day to see me through the transition.  Now we talk once a week about how the week has gone, what my goals are and any questions I have about the program.  I couldn't do this without her.

2) I eat five Medifast meals a day.
The Medifast meals are foods that I buy from Medifast (I order once a month). They typically come in powdered form, but they are some things, like cereal, bars and pretzels, that come in their final form.  There are lots of options, but my favorites are Peanut Butter Soft Serve (ie, ice cream), all of the shakes and the brownies (just add water and then microwave or bake and you have a warm, moist, chewy, chocolatey piece of goodness).
The meals are low calorie, low fat and low on the glycemic index, but they have plenty of protein and vitamins. Plus, on the program you eat every three hours so you're not really hungry. Let me adjust that statement: the first week I was hungry as I adjusted to the new diet, but I've been good ever since!

3) I eat one Lean and Green meal each day.
I call the Lean and Green meal my "real food."  For the Lean and Green, you get one serving of lean protein, three servings of vegetables and one healthy fat. This real food helps to feel normal - I can still eat out*** or eat at a friend's house - but at the same time it gives me the opportunity to start some healthy and controlled eating habits.

Anyway, I once again feel like I could do this thing. I'm on track and focused on my goal of losing a significant amount of weight. Before I started this program I felt kind of hopeless. I kept trying to get back on track with counting calories or new diets and kept giving up. I was full of fear.  It was a very discouraging period. I feel much better now and can picture myself doing this program for months until I have lost my 100 pounds (and maybe even a few more after that!). I've decided that I think being able to picture yourself succeeding, is a big part of actually succeeding.

Obviously, the last time I lost a significant amount of weight I did not succeed at the "not finding it again" part (get it - Lost and NOT Found??).  But I'm a big believer in learning lessons from the past, and I think I can see where I went wrong with the not finding it again.

Now, I'm sure you have some questions. If I get enough in the comments section, I'll post a Q and A blog. Side note: if you want me put you in touch with my health coach Alison, so you can get started on Take Shape for Life, let me know!****


*I just get easily distracted from blogging by television, books and real people.
** They will tell you if you sign up that you will  lose 5-7 pounds a week the first two weeks and then after that you'll lose about 1-2 pounds a week.  But so far, most of my losses have been a bit higher than those numbers.
***But I've only eaten out about 6 times in 6 weeks. Talk about a lifestyle change!
****I don't get compensation for a blog like this. I've just always been open about my weight loss efforts and want to share with you the program that's helping me.

Tuesday, August 27, 2013

RIP Primal

It's been awhile since you heard from me, and I figure I owe you blog readers an update.
Drumroll, please.
I am no longer doing Primal.
Are you surprised or not surprised? Let me tell you the whole story.

I did Primal for three weeks.  During that time I was pretty much 95 percent on track with the Primal plan.  I didn't have any bread or pasta during that time. I gave up Diet Coke.  I did have rice a few times. And probably more fruit than you are supposed to have.  And I did go to this party once where I ate whatever I wanted, which included Oreos, among other things.  But still. Overall, I was pretty hard core.

At the end of 21 days, I weighed for the first time during the whole Primal experience.  I had a number in my head before I ever stepped on the scale that I expected to see.  It was 13 pounds less than the number I saw when I started.  Yes, 13 pounds would've been a lot to lose in 3 weeks.  Yes, any weight lost is a good thing.  Yes, I should not have been disappointed when I did finally step on the scale after being (mostly) hardcore for three weeks and saw that I lost 7 pounds.

That's right.  I went from eating as much processed food, breads, pastas, sugars, and general crap to eating what I felt was a very healthy diet of lean meats, fruits, veggies, some almond milk and some nuts and lost 7 pounds.

7 pounds in three weeks is good. After all, 2 pounds a week is the recommended weight loss. But it wasn't the number I had in my head.  And typically when I've done diets in the past, during the first week I lose more, like 5-7 pounds, and then pick up with 1 to 2 pounds a week after that.

After that, I felt broken. I couldn't get myself to stick to the strict Primal ways any more.  I tried to get back on it a few times, but just couldn't make myself.

I also couldn't bring myself to write this blog post weeks ago when all of this happened because I'm tired of trying and failing and telling the whole world about it.  It's embarrassing. Especially when the trying and failing time period is short. Keeping a blog is not a natural business, really. It's weird to tell the whole world your struggles.

In the end, I guess enough time has passed. Plus, people have been really interested and supportive of me-on-Primal, asking about it and whatnot, so I think an update is necessary.  I went to a few people's houses for dinner while I was doing Primal and they cooked Primal especially for me.  And once I went to this party and another guest asked what she could bring that I would be able to eat.  Those things were really, really nice and I appreciated them.

Luckily, I did not wallow in my Primal failures for too long.  I'm already on track with a new weight loss effort.  I'm not sure I'm ready to tell the whole world about it yet, but I do want you to know that I am moving forward.  This is one of the quotes on my vision board: "You are successful the moment you start moving toward a worthwhile goal." -Charles Carlson

Saturday, July 20, 2013

The Good, The Bad and the Ugly

So it's been over a week, since I posted about the hunger-monster disaster that was day three.  Now I've been doing this so long I'm not even counting by days any more! Now I say "almost two weeks"!
I figure it's time to do a round up of how things have been going.

The Good.
Things have been going well for the most part. The only "fudges" I've had is
1) rice when I went to Chipotle with friends (have you had their rice? it is worth the splurge) and
2) some white wine*

I've been tempted some. I've come very close to giving up all hope and driving to Jimmy John's for their amazing white bread sub sandwiches. Last night I held a warm tortilla in my hand while I was feeding my niece. Do you know what it feels like to hold a warm tortilla and not eat it? It's definitely a form of torture.**  BUT, I've been resisting.  Right now my goal is to make it 21 days without major splurges. After that we will see.

I gave up diet coke (again).  I haven't had any junk food, ice cream or packaged food (aside from packaged raw nuts) in almost two weeks.  I'm only drinking water (and, see above, one night I had wine). This is unbelievable.

Right now, as I blog, I have crust-less pizza in the oven. I'm super excited about this.

The Bad.
I'm still hungry a lot.  Being hungry is when the crazy comes out and your mind will rationalize eating anything. Not sure what I'm doing wrong here. Mister Primal Man seems to think you will be less hungry when eating Primal.

I've been really irritable this week.*** I'm not sure if that's related to being hungry, or stress or problems I've been having with my car. But I'm not usually this easy to anger and I don't like it.

Groceries are expensive!  Each week I think that I will spend less and then I end up spending more. And I'm not even going organic or grass-fed like Mister Primal Man wants.   Plus, I'm running back to the store mid-week for fresh produce. I HATE going to the store more than once a week

The Ugly
Groceries are expensive!  I thought about showing you my grocery bill, but I can't. It's embarrassing. Each week I think that I will spend less and then I end up spending more. And I'm not even going fully organic or grass-fed like Mister Primal Man wants.   Plus, I'm running back to the store mid-week for fresh produce. I HATE going to the store more than once a week.


*red wine is okay because of the antioxidants.  I think white wine is not a horrible choice (better than that wheat monster, beer!) but it's just not on the approved list from Mister Primal Man.
**while you may say, "Jill, that warm tortilla was for your niece. Would you literally take food that is meant for the mouth of a baby?" and my answer to that is, "Of course I would. I'M ON A NO-CARB DIET, FRIENDS.  There is nothing I wouldn't put past me when it comes to warm carbs.  Plus, there was no way that little girl would eat that whole tortilla anyway."
***No, it is not my period.

Thursday, July 11, 2013

It won't always be easy

The first day was great.
The second day was harder.
The third stunk.

I'm still not having trouble "Just Saying No" to bread or processed foods* really. But I have been consistently hungry for two days.  And extremely tired. The tiredness, granted, is not Primal's fault, but does make it harder to feel excited about this new way of eating that I've decided to embark on for the REST OF MY LIFE. And harder to think clearly and determine a healthy, filling way to eat.

Last night, I lay on my couch watching Netflix, because I was too tired to go for a walk or mow the lawn.** I had eaten dinner but was still hungry. I had been hungry all day, so I had a low tolerance. I tried to think of something healthy to eat, but could only think "I'm sick of all berries, smoothies, veggies and eggs."  Plus, did I mention I was tired?  So I never got up and never ate anything and eventually went to bed hungry.

And this was after the disaster that was dinner.  I came home from work sooo hungry.  Knew the portion of pork roast and salad that I had planned for dinner was not going to cut it.  Decided to make these pancakes and a smoothie,***  in addition to the pork roast and salad. But I couldn't decide what to make first so I put a pan on the stove to start warming up while I made the smoothie.

The smoothie was a disaster from the get go. I did not get my ratio of frozen berries to milk right, which means I had basically a solid to drink instead of a liquid at the end. I couldn't get all of the berries to blend (because there were too many), so I had to keep stopping the blender and pushing the berries down toward the blade.  Finally it finished and it wouldn't pour out of the blender into my waiting cup and bottle because it was so thick.  I scraped it out messily with a spoon. Then I went to take a nice gulp and the whole solid mass slid from the bottom of the cup at once with a kerplat!  I ended up not being able to see out of my glasses and looked like this:
And then I rushed to get my phone, so I could
capture this moment for you guys.  And
my phone is still sticky, BTW. Also, I think
my nose is crooked. See how my glasses sit at
an angle? Or maybe my ears are uneven. Or maybe
just the force from the smoothie kerplat!
knocked them askew. Mystery.

So I cleaned up the mess and then decided to move back to the pancakes. The minute I put the "batter"**** down, it seared into a blackened mess.  Unedible. I had had the pan "warming" on high for like 15 minutes and it was way too hot! I let that cool and did the dishes from the smoothie.  After it cooled I scraped the mess off the pan and tried to drop the batter for the last pancake.  But the pan was still too hot and it instantly burned again.  Plus, I maybe did not do a great job at mashing the banana so the "batter" was more like eggs with some lumps of banana mixed in.  I will not be trying this recipe again for awhile, to say the least.

In the end, I resorted back to the originally planned pork roast and salad and had just a few cautious sips of the smoothie before putting the rest in the fridge for today. And I will be drinking it through a straw today for safety's sake. It's become a bit more liquid in the interim.

Every day won't be like day three.  That's what I've got to tell myself, right?


*I maybe should've mentioned my one caveat to the "no processed foods" rule: Diet Coke. I know I will need to give it up eventually, and I am weening myself off of it right now, but it is still being consumed. By me. Daily. But only once a day, which is progress.
**in my defense it was my only night available this week for such laziness, as I have packed my week with walking dates and other engagements.
***I needed a smoothie pre-ready for breakfast today, so that was killing two birds with one stone.
****I put "batter" in quotes because, can it really be called batter when it is just eggs and banana?

Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Primal Plunge

You may be sick of hearing about my first steps into the Primal eating lifestyle, but it's what's going on in my world, so it's more Primal for you tonight!

I had planned to just try and do primal breakfast and lunch this week, but yesterday I just decided to take the plunge and go fully Primal. The big challenge the Primal people issue is to try Primal for 21 days.  So I figured if I started this week then I should know by the beginning of August if this is something I want to do for the rest of my life (no pressure).  You know, just if I can tell a difference in my energy level, how clothes are fitting, immune system.*

Two things have developed in the two days I've been doing this:
1) People have mentioned bread, offered me bread or I've had a stray thought about some M&Ms or something.  But instead of feeling bad about not being able to eat it, I've just been thinking (and automatically, I haven't been forcing myself to think this way) "That's not something I do." And by "do", I mean "eat."  Just a statement of fact, no feelings of sadness or guilt attached. This has been a great gift.

2) I've decided not to weigh at all while I'm doing this.  While I obviously hope to lose weight by doing this, I want to be less focused on watching the numbers go down. Instead, I want to be more focused on eating more fruits and veggies and less processed foods for my current and future health.  This is a big departure from how I've done things in the past, but I feel great about it.

I know I used to hate listening to people go on and on about a particular diet they were on.  "Just give up X, and you'll lose weight like crazy!" I never wanted to give up anything, and I got easily tired of the proselytizing. I don't think I will ever try to convert people to Primal eating, but I'm holding on to hope for me right now.


*The immune system one may sound weird but I feel like the last several years I've been getting colds a lot more often, and I've had a cough now for over a month. One of the "perks" of Primal eating is supposed to be a boost to your immune system, so we'll see.

Sunday, July 7, 2013

Primal Progress

After writing this blog last week about the possibility of going Primal, several things happened:

1) Several people told me to "start small"
2) One person sent me several links to recipe websites containing healthy primal recipes
3) Several people wanted to know more about Primal, since I did not do much in the way of explaining it (I feel like people around me are always deciding to go Primal or Paleo, so I just assumed it was that way for everyone and that everyone knew what I meant when I referred to primal eating)
4) I bizarrely* found myself reading four different non-fiction books at the same time.  One was the Primal Blueprint, which I had mentioned.  But two others had lessons for me about living without fear and overcoming.**

So, I decided to start small by abandoning Oreos and eating primal breakfasts all week.  And, guess what? I was able to stick to this plan.  Breakfast has always been a difficult meal for me.  I don't know why, maybe because I'm not much of a morning person.  But this week, I had scrambled eggs, omelets or smoothies every morning.  Gone were my breakfast biscuits and morning BoJangles stops.  I used to have a huge egg hatred, but I seem to have mostly outgrown that. Although I still don't think I could stomach eating like a hard boiled egg or a soft boiled egg.  Blech.  The smoothies were great alternatives for me on my early gym mornings, because I made it the night before and just grabbed it on my way out the door in the morning.  I also pre-made smoothies for a trip out of town this weekend. I wasn't sure what the hosts would have available for breakfast and I wanted to be prepared.

The links to the Primal recipe websites got me at least started exploring for Primal recipes that sounded good.  I made a tasty and beautiful, Red, White and Blue Salad and I found several recipes that I bookmarked for future use.

I still should not be the one to explain Primal to you, but I am a lot farther along in the book.  It is basically, eating the way the cavemen would have eaten (and moving the way they would've moved, too).  It involves eliminating grains and legumes, but they do not call themselves a "low carb diet" because most low carb diets limit your veggie intake as well, because they contain carbs too.  Primal encourages you to eat animals and their eggs, lots of veggies and plenty of fruit. There's a lot of scientific explanations in the book that honestly read like a foreign language to me. But if you're into that kind of thing, you might really enjoy reading it.

I wish I'd written a whole blog post earlier this week about what I learned from these two books about fear and facing it and overcoming.  But I didn't and while I do have a residue of what I picked up from them, I don't think I'll be able to articulate it well now. To give you an idea, here's one quote that resonated with me from A Million Miles in a Thousand Years:

The most often repeated commandment in the Bible is "Do not fear." It's in there over 200 times...it means we are going to be afraid but we shouldn't let fear boss us around...fear isn't  only a guide to keep us save, it's a manipulative emotion that can trick us into living a boring life.***

I think what I gained most from reading these books**** was that I need to adjust my thinking.  So instead of thinking, there's no way I'm going to live without processed foods, I've been thinking, "Won't I feel so much better when stop eating so much crap?"

I've been slowly transitioning my fridge and cabinets.  I just got back from the store and cooked up a breakfast, a snack, a lunch and a dinner, so my fridge is fully of nutritious, fresh and primal foods.  It feels good.  I think this week my goal will be to eat Primal breakfasts every day, and continue to eat primal as much as I can. I'm not ready to say I'm eliminating carbs completely this week, but I am prepared for a mostly primal week.

So, that's probably way more than you ever wanted to know about me and my plans to transition to primal, but there it is. Thoughts?

*Bizarre because I never read non-fiction and very rarely read more than one book at a time
**The fourth one was about church leadership and visioning, which while helpful, did not have many applicable lessons to overcoming my eating issues.
***The ellipses mean I left out some stuff in between there, but this is the gist of it.
****The 2nd book is "In a Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day"

Monday, July 1, 2013

101 Reasons for Abby


Two years ago my best friend Amie wrote a note on Facebook, called "101 Reasons Why I Love Jill Stuckey."  It blew me away, so last year, I made a list of 101 reasons why I love her.  

Today is our friend Abby's birthday and together Amie and I wrote a list of reasons we love Abby.  In the list, our responses are all mixed up together so when you see "Me" or "I" you'll just have to guess whether it's Amie or myself speaking (here's a hint: when Amie's husband Daniel (D) is referred to, the "me" is probably Amie).

I think when you read this list, even if you don't know Abby personally, you get a great picture of a good, loving, adventurous and selfless person. That's Abby.  

If you do know Abby personally, please join the fun and list a thing or two that you love about her in the comments.
  1. The force with which Abby tackled Meghan at the volleyball court.
  2. She encouraged me regularly in my effort to lose weight. 
  3. When Abby and Bryan forced me and D to go on a spontaneous hike with them - I think this started our friendship.
  4. She really loves listening to conversations between her husband Bryan and I (my questions/his knowledge).
  5. Abby and Bryan hosting fusion lunches at their Hamilton's  Bay apt.
  6. It is easy to have adventures with her. 
  7. Introducing me to Pad Thai!
  8. She only calls kids "children."
  9. Helping them move every time! 
  10. She loves to clamber on rocks like me. 
  11. How happy I was when Abby told me she was pregnant with Anna. I fell down in the middle of the church lobby. 
  12. Daniel's reaction: "Now that's a baby I'm excited about."
  13. She decided to read the bible in a year and then did. Twice. And a half. 
  14. Our Jekyll/Brunswick Memories: Saint Andrew's rope swing, the house on Wolfe street, making friends with the community people, King & Prince, driftwood beach, Jill swimming the Jekyll River
  15. She doesn't lose her patience with her children.
  16. Riding in the back of the truck together. 
  17. She loves.
  18. She made my first triathlon an experience of a lifetime because of the signs she and Anna made. 
  19. She can drive a stick. 
  20. Watching Amelie at camp.
  21. She is brave. 
  22. Making the signs for Jill's triathlon.
  23. She is kind to all. 
  24. Being present when both England kids went in the ocean for the first time.
  25. She actually can take captive every thought. 
  26. Hiking Crowders with Anna when she was extremely little.
  27. She knitted me a beautiful scarf. 
  28. Being the official England Family Photographer.
  29. She is one of my favorite hug givers. 
  30. Abby taking me on a walk behind her old Clover house. We saw a turtle laying eggs.
  31. She has a sense of style all her own. 
  32. Abby's green hand/love shirt.
  33. She's an ocean-loving wave jumper. 
  34. Staying up late in Brunswick chatting in the living room on the night of our arrival every time.
  35. She is supportive of both of my sisters.
  36. Visiting the Community and drinking the red kool-aid.
  37. She fearlessly talks to strangers. 
  38. Walking across the Jekyll bridge and getting caught in the rain.
  39. She is quite the cook. 
  40. Eating soup and crab cake sandwiches at SeaJays. 
  41. Being there when she both bought and lost her wedding ring.
  42. Always taking pictures with the giant gorilla at Larry's Subs.
  43. One day in June about 9 years ago, I called her to see if she wanted to do something and she said "I can't, I'm getting married today. "
  44. Climbing trees at Driftwood Beach.
  45. Catching a baby shark at the Jekyll pier!!! Neo!!
  46. She made me realize I wanted to visit the Grand Canyon when I had never wanted to before. 
  47. How much Abby and I both love chicken salad from Chick-fil-a. 
  48. She's overcome her anger issues. 
  49. How badass Abby is when she does a mud run, until she starts going blind.
  50. Having Wednesday dinners at Wang and king pre kids.
  51. That Abby bought us a crepe maker! 
  52. How good of a cook she thinks I am. And how good of a cook I think she is. 
  53. Her transparency.
  54. She is good at being a wife.
  55. Her ability to see her mom's total insanity and still love her.
  56. She doesn't want for anything. 
  57. Her commitment to helping me survive as a teacher.
  58. She really cares about Fusion. 
  59. That she can drive a bus.
  60. That she gave me her car for almost a year!
  61. That she taught me to drive a stick shift. 
  62. She says "that's special" and really means it. 
  63. That she reads the Bible everyday without fail as if it is the easiest thing ever. 
  64. She has horrible headaches, but doesn't let that stop her. 
  65. Her love of bonfires and Christmas carols and lemon water. 
  66. That she has an engagement toboggan. 
  67. When Talbot confused me and D with Bryan and Abby. D said it was the best compliment Talbot ever gave us.
  68. She really loves kids.
  69. Her love of being and sleeping outside.
  70. She is very strong.
  71. She looks at all people like Jesus did. 
  72. That she hikes mountains with babies all over her, without complaint.
  73. That she hiked the Grand Canyon with Anna.
  74. She loves to help people move.  
  75. When Abby taught a Bible study lesson at a women's retreat and she said, "How do we show God that we love him? By following the 10 commandments. And by recycling." 
  76. She has beautiful children. 
  77. How much and how well she loves Bryan. And that they can't play settlers of Catan together anymore. 
  78. That she plays the recorder.
  79. She was in my same Good Shepherd membership class. 
  80. She has great conversations with Talbot.
  81. We've been friends for 10 years.  
  82. She gives great running hugs.
  83. She does not own a TV. 
  84. But she and Bryan watched The Office faithfully for awhile because of me. 
  85. She did not understand a Quincinera. 
  86. That she and Bryan used to exchange love notes in runes.
  87. She makes me peanut butter pie on my birthday. 
  88. That Bryan's mom found out about Abby because one of her hairs was left in their house.
  89. How much Abby loves Christmas Adam.
  90. Her enthusiasm. 
  91. Her amazing collection of graphic tees.
  92. She's a mom, but not an annoying one. 
  93. Her love of flowy skirts.
  94. She's a wildcard mafia player. 
  95. We swim long distances together. 
  96. Her commitment to only posting positive things on Facebook.
  97. She used to be Abi. Now she's Abby, because she no longer feel the need to be rebellious. 
  98. Her love of contra dancing.
  99. She's a great blogger/writer when she does it. 
  100. She loves Moe's.
  101. She's a faithful follower of my blog.  

Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Scared Pantsless

I've just started reading the Primal Blueprint.  Literally just started. I'm 8 pages in and haven't finished the introduction. But I had to stop and write this blog because I'm already freaking out. Can I really switch to primal eating? Is it possible?

Primal, from what I've gathered in 8 pages and a perusal of the cover, advocates a high fat, no grain, no processed foods approach to eating.  The cover says the Primal Blueprint will "reprogram your genes for effortless weight loss, vibrant health and boundless energy."

That sounds pretty good to me.

I know several people who have given up grains or carbs, and they have typically had such a good experience that they want to convert you.  I'm sure we've all had this conversation with those around us who've gone low-carb or Paleo or Primal or whathaveyou. I, for one, typically just shut my ears to their entreaties while exclaiming "I could never live without bread -- or pasta!"

It seems silly and extreme to me to eliminate a whole food group.  Much more sane to not cut oneself off but allow all things in moderation.  Heck, I've lost weight before (more than once, it turns out) and I've always done it by playing the calorie counting game. Consume less calories then you expend and you will lose weight.

BUT

  1. I can't bring myself to diet in the traditional way again. Losing all of that weight, then gaining it back and then continually trying to lose it again has damaged something in me (mentally).
  2. I need to lose weight. Honesty check: I don't easily fit in seats at all movie theatres or stadiums anymore and the thought of traveling somewhere by plane makes me really nervous because of my size. I'm missing out on 3/4 of my wardrobe because of the weight I've gained, and I don't want to have health issues when I'm older.
  3. I am tired a lot and dread working out because of how much harder it is with all of this extra weight.

Things could stand to change.

So, what I'm committing to right now is suspending my disbelief, reading this book, and seriously considering following its principles.  And, apparently, apologizing to all of those who've tried to convert me to giving up wheat/grains/carbs previously and watched while I plugged my ears and said my line about not living without bread.

But really, the whole thing scares me pantsless.

You know what actually scares me more than giving up grains? Giving up processed foods. How will I live without Oreos?


Sunday, June 16, 2013

My Father, the Hero

My dad's birthday was last month.  In celebration of that day, I posted this status on Facebook:

I posted it early in the morning, and as the day went on, I kept thinking about it. It was bothering me.  

I finally figured out why. 

My dad has a great yard, and he works really hard to make and keep it beautiful. But that status makes it sound like yardwork is the only thing he taught me. If the best way to honor my dad is by attempting to do all the things he does well, that would make for a busy and exhausting day.  

It's true my dad taught me to love the way a freshly mown and trimmed yard looks, but he also showed me the beauty of day lilies and helped me grow my own.  He taught me the importance of customer service and appreciation of employees, things that affect the way I work on a daily basis. He's the king of corny jokes, and I'm pretty sure I learned to laugh from him. 

He's creative and good at decorating.  He grills the best burgers.  The thing I miss most about him when we are apart is the way he hugs.  He's the best hugger I know.

My dad takes care of everything. You don't have to worry about anything when he's around, cause if something comes up, he'll take care of it.  He has an attention to detail that I will never have, and he doesn't understand laziness.

In the past two months he's become a caregiver and a nurse for my mom, something that is maybe not in his natural wheelhouse, but roles that he has become patient and proficient at performing.

Just two weeks ago, he coached me through taking care of a wasps' nest that had sprung up in my shed over the phone, giving me the confidence to tackle it on my own. (I was really dreading dealing it with it.)

Basically, even attempting an exhaustive list of all the things my dad is and does quickly becomes a daunting task, let alone trying to actually live out all of those things. Basically, he's my hero. Let that suffice for today's status.

Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Hotdogs!

A vlog in which I tell you a story that involves hot dogs, NYC, exercise and policemen. Sit back and relax.



Ohmygosh, I only now realized I should've worn my hotdog hat for this video!

Monday, May 27, 2013

My Top Songs of Summer

I have a Summer Songs playlist on my iPhone.  I listen to these songs each summer, but only in the summer, because listening to them at any other time is a little painful.  Stirring up too much summer-fun longing in the dead of winter can be dangerous to your mental health.

I hear today is Memorial Day, I wouldn't know because I worked a regular day today while all of you were at pool parties and cookouts and basking in the sun. But since Memorial Day is the official opening of summer, I thought I'd share with you my most favorite summer songs, in no particular order.

Summertime's Calling Me by the Catalinas

We Stuckeys grew up listening to beach music each summer. I think it was part of my dad's attempt at making us northern transplants more southern.  I definitely remember hating the whole genre for a period of my life, but now, summer's not complete without these dulcet tones.
Sample lyric
"I remember this past winter, I told myself to settle down. And I seriously tried to do just that.
But here I am with everything so beautiful and green and I don't believe I told myself what I mean.
Maybe someday soon I can feel this way year round. But it's summertime and I don't want to stay in this town."




Pontoon by Little Big Town

A relatively new song, but it does capture the slow-mo summer spirit.
Sample lyric
"On the pontoon.
Making waves and catchin' rays up on the roof
Jumpin' off the back, don't act like you don't want to
Party in slow motion, out here in the open."



Summer Thing by Troy Olsen

A little known gem, I got this song as a free download from the iTunes store, but it's likely my number one favorite summer song. It combines the classic drinking song and the classic summer song in one.
Sample lyric
"Well the sun is getting ripe and the water's getting warmer
The days are getting longer and them shorts are getting shorter
You won't hear me complain.
It's a summer thing."


Summertime by Fresh Prince and DJ Jazzy Jeff

A classic from way back in 1992.
Sample lyric
"It's late in the day and I ain't been on the court yet.
Hustle to the mall to get me a short set.
Yeah, I got on sneaks, but I need a new pair.
'Cause basketball courts in the summer got girls there."


All I Want to Do by Sugarland

And lest you be confused, not every great summer song needs to actually describe the physical attributes or activities of summer with their lyrics. Sometimes, they capture the essence of summer just with a catchy melody or the timing of when a song was released and how heavily you played it during the summer months (see example: Call Me, Maybe.)
Sample lyric
"I don't want to get up, baby, let's turn off the phone.
I don't want to go to work today, or even put my make up on."




This list is just a sampling. There are many more great summer songs. My summer list has a lot more beach music, some Kenny Chesney, some Jimmy Buffet, some Beach Boys, etc.You get the picture.

So, let's celebrate summer together. What's your favorite summer song? 

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

How to Laugh like Jill Stuckey


Laugh and laugh often. Even if you have to fake laugh to get it started.
A tutorial:

Friday, May 17, 2013

The Office Goodbye: Reaction

There was a time when I was considered something of an Office fanatic.  I watched each episode at least twice the week it aired. I scoured Office fan sites, talked about it with everyone I knew, and threw elaborate season premiere parties.  I even named my wifi network "Michael Scott."

I watched it from day one when it aired the EXACT same pilot, word for word, as the British version. This was disappointing, but the British version had been so good, I understood why and still had hope. The rest of the first season is brilliant, but not the kind of main stream comedy most people go for.  

Season 2 came with noticeable changes.  The lighting was different, better. Less dismal.  The Jim and Pam romance continued to grow, and with more abandon, especially when compared with their British counterparts, Tim and Dawn. When season 2 ended with Jim professing his love with a single tear rolling down his cheek and then later kissing Pam, I remember exactly where I was.

On the floor. Because I had rolled off of my couch in shock and surprise.  That was a seriously great night of television.

And that's when I realized that I NEEDED to start throwing season premiere parties.  Cause if you have a party, it's slightly crowded and less chance of you falling off the couch.  I kid. No, I started throwing the parties so that more people would be introduced to the Office.

In recent years, the show has not been as phenomenal, admittedly.  But it had set pretty high marks for itself in the early seasons.  Still, what it gave us in those first four seasons was so beautiful, that I kept watching and hoping for the spot-on comedy to return. 

This season has been tough, as Jim and Pam have had some difficulty in their marriage.  People asked me worriedly, "Do you think Jim and Pam will get a divorce??" But I always responded that we should trust the writers, they know Jim and Pam are the heart of the show.

The uncomfortableness (but likely pretty real stuff, I wouldn't know, I'm not married) went on a bit longer than I would've liked, but in the last few episodes they've been bringing the show back to its origins.  Jim loves Pam. Jim loves to torture Dwight. Dwight loves to be in charge/powerful.  These are the three tenets that made the Office great.*

The Finale
*SPOILER ALERT DON'T CONTINUE IF YOU HAVEN'T WATCHED

Thursday, May 9, 2013

Thankful Thursdays: a quickie.

Man, I am in a great mood this morning. Still, I'm trying to crank this out early, so it'll have to be a quick run down of the many things I'm thankful for.

Pump-you-up music
Honey suckles
Petunias
Great workouts
the Mindy Project and this breakdown of their recent fight scene.
My mama
That today is Thursday
That the weather has not turned blazing hot.
That I have a gym at work.
That my car runs, even though it does smell
That to alleviate the smell, I'm riding windows down all the time now in this perfect weather.
The interwebs
FaceTime
My curly hair.
My new lawn mower (it's a beaut. And it actually cuts grass)
That Vienna Teng is coming to Charlotte in July (Who wants to go with??)
Arrested Development is coming soon.
Scandal is amazing.
Blog comments (shameless plug)


So what are you thankful for this week?


Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Wonderful Web Wednesday

Man, the internet is a wonderful place.  First, it let's you do things like check this blog, AND pay your bills online.  But then there is all of the wonders you can discover.  I've run across several things this week that I've wanted to share with people, thus inspiring this post.

I saw this blog post on Facebook this week. It gives a thoughtful perspective on the life of a Christian single.  I think a lot of single people tend to live in a holding pattern, waiting until they're married for life to start.  But life is not for waiting.*

Dawson may have gotten to name the creek, but Pacey is clearly the best guy on my favorite late 90s tv show.  If you disagree, this post on Buzz Feed will set you straight.

Do you know my favorite season for running?  Honey suckle season. How does this relate to the web? Obviously, I searched out this picture of honey suckle to remind you how great it is.  But one thing that is not wonderful about the web is that you can't smell these guys through your computer screen to get the full effect.





Finally, John Krasinski and Mindy Kaling two of my favorite celebs, who also happen to be a star and former star of the Office, have been making the rounds on the talk show circuit.  Two different friends pointed out this gem of John Krasinksi lip syncing (you can skip the Jimmy Fallon parts).




And Monica told me about this hilarious interview with my celebrity best friend, Mindy.  The interview is great, but the best part starts at about the 6:09 mark in the interview when she shares that SHE PLAYED MAFIA WITH TOM HANKS! We are destined to be best friends.



Have you found anything wonderful on the interwebs lately? Let me know!


*To clarify, I am speaking of waiting in a "waiting for life to start" kind of way. I'm not talking about sex.

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Birthday By the Numbers

Today is my 33rd birthday.
Turning 33 means a number of things. Specifically, these numbers:

I've made 33 revolutions around the sun.
That's 12, 053 days.
And 289,272 hours.
Which is 17,356,320 minutes.

That's roughly 35,794 meals. I don't miss many meals.

Three different home states, but only one that really feels like home.
Four different hometowns, but only one where I've been a landowner.

I've run four 5ks, two 10ks, one triathlon, one duathalon and one five-mile mud run.

I've held 10 different positions at six different companies.

I've enjoyed the company of my two parents, three siblings, two siblings in law, three nieces, two nephews, four dogs, four grandparents, 16 cousins, and 12 cousins-in-law.

I've watched 196 episodes of the Office, 180 episodes of Seinfeld, 122 episodes of Saved By the Bell, 121 episodes of LOST, 76 episodes of Friday Night Lights, 53 episodes of Arrested Development and a few other less important shows.

Plus a few other things that are kind of impossible to count like the number of Diet Cokes I've sipped or the number of times I've laughed til I cried.  All in all, it's a pretty good life.

Someone might want to check my math.  Just because it's my birthday doesn't mean I've magically become a mathematician.

Happy Birthday to ME!!

My post in honor of my 32nd birthday.
My post in honor of my 31st birthday.

Thursday, April 25, 2013

Thankful Thursday: My birthday is coming!

I know I have not done a thankful Thursday post in awhile and I apologize for that.  Thursdays have become a rather busy day for me. I toyed with moving the day, but Thankful Mondays just doesn't have a good ring to it. Then I spent like half a second trying to come up with an adjective for "thankful" that would alliterate* with a day of the week well, but came up with nothin'.

Anyway, let's be thankful, publicly on the web, when we can and be thankful that it's possible!**

This week, I am most thankful, and astounded, that my birthday is next week.
Seriously, I think about my birthday way to much.  Less than a week to go!  I'll be off on my birthday (Wednesday, May 1, if you're interested), and driving most of the day to go stay with my parents for a few days.  Feel free to send me many gratuitous texts or blog comments.  Those are my two favorite forms of communication.

And if my birthday is next week, then my BFF's birthday is this weekend, which is just as good.
Because Amie knows how to do a birthday and do it right.  She has a weekend full of festivities planned, and I know I'll have just as much fun celebrating her birthday as my own.

Cinco De Moe's is coming
Have I mentioned that I love Moe's?  Sunday, May 5 they're serving $5 burritos with a drink in honor of Cinco de Moe's.

That I'm going to see my mama and daddy this next week.
I haven't seen them since Christmas and that is way too long.  Jill needs regular hugs from her parents and she's not afraid to admit that.***

I finally broke down and bought new work shoes.
I had worn holes in both pairs that I wear regularly.  Why is so hard to find shoes that are comfortable and appropriately dressy for work?

ARRESTED DEVELOPMENT IS COMING BACK IN ONE MONTH!!!!!
If you've never watched Arrested Development, you should.  It is one of the top three comedies ever made for tv.  Maybe it is even number one or number two.  And they've decided to bring it back for a limited run on Netflix.  If you need to catch up, the previous three seasons that originally aired in the early 2000s are available on both Netflix and Hulu.  Do it. You'll be thankful that you did. It just occurred to me that I should be rewatching the series in anticipation. New plan for all of my free time.

For my morning workouts with friends
Even if they do make me jello-y and sore a majority of the time.  These two are a great encouragement.

For Face time
I actually don't call anyone with my phone anymore.  It's just Facetime or texting for me (or snapchatting, I suppose), and I like it that way.

I feel like there are many, many things I am forgetting, but for now, I'm just going to be thankful it's Thursday!

*Can you use that word as a verb? Yes. Because I just did, sucker!
**Because, how thankful are we for the interwebs being a reality?? So thankful!
***Jill is also not afraid of speaking in the third person.